I think that many may not understand why I have been using “Pink Warrior” as my title, team name, or anything. I assume most believe I just like pink and I consider myself a warrior. Well both are true, but not the reason for the name. In this name I find strength, understanding, patience, fierceness, compassion, hope, loyalty, honesty with some pink pizazz.
For a good part of my life I fought who I was..who I am. There was a time that I hated being a girl in school – at least one that wasn’t the prettiest, the most popular, or well spoken. I tried to cover my face with more makeup and hide my gapped teeth with my hand when I smiled. I was so sensitive and shy. My feelings would get hurt so easily and my heart ached for others in the same situation. As I got older I started enjoying who I was a bit more – maybe too much. Then a bad marriage with bad things made me once again hate being a sensitive woman so I decided to really toughen her up. I started being “direct” and “emotionless”. I became in a sense “one of the guys” but at the same time used my femininity to get what I thought I wanted but never showing my true self – so for a while – I hated pink. It used to be my favorite color – then it just signified my weaknesses.
Now – I know that Pink is what made me strong. Not the color – but actually embracing who I am. It can be anything for anyone – but for me it was Pink. I learned that being sensitive and caring doesn’t include being a pushover or a door mat. That I am strong because I am a woman – not in spite of being a woman. I also learned to accept people as who they show themselves to be. I may know that inside someone is “good” but I realized if they choose to be the opposite – then I must take that as truth. I have learned that I really do love others – a lot. My empathy as a woman is a wonderful gift that allows me to “feel” other’s emotions and truly help them how I can. My strength has helped me realize I don’t have to become their problem in order to help them.
So all of you – my friends, my Mary Kay Team, my awesome family….this is what I want you to know every time you say you are a part of the “Pink Warrior Team” and someone giggles a little…
A Pink Warrior is someone who…
…falls down and gets back up
…asks for help when they can’t get up on their own
…accepts others for who they are – regardless of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, etc
…not only accepts others for who they are – but loves them for it
…who works everyday to accept themselves as who they are
…stands up for what is right
…uses whatever he or she is doing for good
…is a leader in one way or another
…can follow without resentment
…cries when they need to
…laughs every chance they get
…allows themselves to become angry
…learns to let go of anger and then to forgive
…serves others even when a “thank you” is never received
…allows themselves to be served – and then thank them for it
…finds something beautiful in everyone they meet
…is bold but not pushy
…makes mistakes – then owns them, learns from them, and fix them when they can
…understand that others make mistakes too
…does everything worth doing – to the best of their ability
…kicks fear in the ass
…kicks self doubt, hate, shame and guilt in the ass
So remember – when you are part of the Pink Warrior Team – It means you are a part of a group who rises above and when we can’t – we have others to help lift us. It isn’t just women – it is everyone that wants to be a part of this. I am Pink and I am a Warrior – and I am proud to be a part of it.